First time jitters

The question I hear the most from bi curious women is…How do you know what to do with a women? Which is usually followed up with …I want to try it but I wouldn’t know what to do.

Well,think about your first time with a man, a poor comparison but that’s all you have to work with for now. Hopefully this was someone you were at least deeply in lust with, you know, butterflies when you kissed, extreme sexual passion raging from head to toe. Anyway, take away the actual intercourse part and just think back to how you knew where and how to touch him. It came pretty naturally I’m sure…and if you were lucky, he was touching you and leading you to respond to his touch so that things went even further. Well, just times that feeling of overwhelming ecstasy by 10 with your hands, mouth, fingers and other body parts if you or your partner are really creative taking over your entire psyche.

There isn’t a manual to lesbian sex…unfortunately too many bi curious women are expecting fireworks the first time when just fooling around with a stranger or an acquaintance. Like anything else, what got you into this curious state is what your mind was telling you, which in this case was that sex with a women is “hot”. Now you are dealing with what is going on mentally not necessarily what’s real.

Take my advice…make sure your first time is with someone you trust, know well and care about, obviously talk about what is expected…if it’s sex with no strings attached, talk about it beforehand…especially if you are married and would like to stay that way. Make it clear that falling in love is not an option.

There is a very thin line to straddle in order to achieve a memorable first time experience. Your best experience is going to be with someone you have a mental connection with in addition to a physical connection …anything less than that will just leave you with an empty fantasy.

After your fabulous first time you’ll find it much easier to pick and choose who you’d like to experience next. You’ll find yourself a bit more detached and in control, it’s just the first time that’s difficult to conquer, only because it’s all about the unknown…and once you’ve done it you’ll be asking yourself, "why hadn’t I done this sooner?"

Opportunity knocks on June 27th

Well, the big weekend of festivities is almost here…and if you want to blend in and you are bi curious or married this is the time to be brave and get down to New York City Pier 59 on Saturday June 27th …One party not to be missed on Saturday June 27th 2009 is Pier Pressure #10, located at the Chelsea Brewing Co. at Chelsea Pier, Pier 59., West side Hwy @18th street.

Hosted by Henrietta Hudson’s and Lover girl, for 10 years this party has been on fire.
Over 3,000 women, waterfront venue with patio deck, 2 dance floors 3 huge bars and hot Go Go Dancers.

Party starts at 9PM $25 admission

My favorite bi curious lesbian video clip

For those bi curious women out there who need some material, I thought I might post this treat for you, let me know what you think.

This weekend it's a Jersey girl

The weekend is here and for the second year I’ll be heading to the hottest gay, bi curious, bi sexual, lesbian event in New Jersey.

Definitely worth the trip. Unfortunately on my last visit I was in a committed relationship and could only observe the beautiful fit women that attended the Jersey Pride after party at Paradise, at 101 Asbury Ave, Asbury Park, NJ. The music was pumpin, tons of people indoors and outdoors by the pool and around the pool. It was like being on vacation on a gay Island. Anyway, check it out especially if you’ve never experienced the Jersey shore. I was a bit hesitant the first time I visited, but it turned out to be a very pleasant surprise. I hear the weather is going to be perfect so I hope to see you there!

For more info on The Gay Pride events on Sunday, June 6th go to http://www.jerseypride.org/ or go to
http://www.paradisenj.com/